Everyone wants the perfect relationship, but too often
we compromise the Wait for the right person for the Need to have someone
around.
No one wants to be lonely, so desperately people
compromise their feelings, strong beliefs on how they think love should be,
based upon surface values and not what they really feel. It seems everyone’s
afraid to dig deep to see the other person, not just the fantasy that’s created
but to really see the other person.
It’s easy to create a perfect relationship in the back
of your mind, but what happens when things don’t go as planned? …the blind eye
is turned, the famous “doubting the instincts” comes into play, then the
excuses are made ~he/she can change, the relationship is too new to bring up
the issues or make demands, or I can’t do better than what I have right now, so
I’ll stick it out until something better comes along.
Why do women do that?
Are we that desperate to be
loved that we would take anything that’s utters the word “love.”
Too often I hear women say;
“we’re having problems in our marriage, so we’re gonna have a baby”
When did, having a baby
dissolves marital problems?
Trust me sooner or later, the
same issues before baby ~will only be worse after baby.
When did Trading the Wait for
the right person with the right qualities become
“the right now and for all the
wrong reasons?”
*He’s good to me but not
marriage material
*He cheats but he can change
*Our sex life is good, but we
have no open communicate between us
*Yes he’s good in the bedroom
but he’s completely useless outside the bedroom
*He completely lacks what you
need in the bedroom but treats you like a queen outside of the bedroom
*He’s built like Fabio or a
Greek God but he makes you feel like the ground he’s walking on
*Or the Famous …he’s quiet or
too reserved but I need a Bad boy to rough me up now and then.
** The list of excuses goes
on and on….
But what do you do then?
Can you be honest with
yourself & the other party & be ok with the thought of being alone?
Or play the role of the
doting girl “staying in a relationship, that’s not working” for the sake of not
being alone?
Being single is not as
crippling as everyone thinks, yes you have days that you get lonely
And some days are so perfect;
it completely reminds you, why you chose to be single in the first place.
I refuse to want something
that only looks like love for the time being, or something I can tolerate for
the sake of being in a relationship
In a healthy relationship:
Your other half should be
able to lift you up when you can’t seem to lift yourself up
You’re too weary to pray,
he’ll pray with you or for you
Even on your worst day, he
can look you in the eyes and say “you’re beautiful”
Not only sees you, but knows
your heart
You can say you are OK to no
end and he’ll still hold you close because he knows you are lying thru your
teeth
Your fight is his fight
Encourages you to be yourself
and not what he sees out in the world
Loves you for who you are and
not who he thinks you should be.
Should be able to talk about
everything or nothing and still be comfortable in the silence of our
nothingness
And everything, should be vise versa
Love shouldn’t have to be such a compromise that 50%
of the time you are unhappy with the other person.
If that’s the case, then what’s the point?
So is being Single all that bad?
I don’t think so! God has put me in a place where I
see first hand, how short life can be, and its’ made me realize that
“Treasuring Everyday like it’s a Gift” has become my motto. I cherish my heart
and the people I give it to, and I’ve come to the conclusion that Life is too
short to be in the wrong relationship or something ….like a good relationship.
